Sunday, August 23, 2009

Those Little Vow Things

So I just found out that not one, but two people I know from high school have gotten engaged recently. Add that to the list of countless others who are engaged or already married. I'm finding myself to be in the minority now. Here we are only 22 and almost everyone I knew from high school is married, some married and divorced already, or engaged. I can count on my hand how many are left from my little groupie that isn't tying the knot yet.

I have to say I am surprised. Very surprised. Who would have thought so many people would be so willing to jump into a marriage at such a young age. Of course as also seen, they are just as willing to jump out of a marriage at the sight of a little trouble which is inevitable in any marriage.

It kinda shocks me to see some people married. Not that they got married really, just that they got married so young and to be completely honest I'm a little surprised some got married before I did. Not that I think I'm ready to jump the gun and get married tomorrow, because that is far from the case. It's just that some girls that I knew then never dated. I mean NEVER dated, not always by choice either. You know them too. The girls (and guys) that you always knew and not saying anything was wrong with them, just no one ever thinks of them in a relationship type of way. Well I knew several of those in high school and not one or two, but at least three of them are currently happily married.

I guess that is kinda a slap in the face. You think you are normal because it's only the "popular" people getting married and having kids, but when the undatables are married and engaged before you, it really makes you wonder if something is wrong with you. Now before you go jumping to conclusions, I know that nothing is wrong with me. I'm not complaining at all. I have an amazing boyfriend and the time is just not right yet. I know it will come eventually. However, it does make you wonder and second guess yourself sometimes.

We are all searching for someone. That special person who will provide us what's missing in our lives. Someone who can offer companionship or assistance or security. And sometimes if we search very hard, we can find someone who provides us with all three. Yes, we are all searching for someone. And if we can't find them, we can only pray they find us -Desperate Housewives

1 comments:

Beth said...

I totally see what you mean. Chad and I have been together for 6 years. I kept thinking, what's up? Maybe there was something wrong with me? All of my friends are married and most have kids too, from high school. I will be 24 in 2 weeks and I will be 25 when we're married. I am happy for my friends but I am glad it took longer for him to finally pop the question. I feel more ready than ever now, and I think when your time comes you will too and you will be glad you didn'y jump into it when you were 20. :)